I was in my car on the way to get groceries when the musical tone signalling a call from Nancy’s iPhone rang. It was Nancy asking me where I was. After confirming that I was not able to talk, she said “Call me” and hung up. My stomach turned to ice and I turned the car around and went back to the condo. A quick call and the worst fears were confirmed. Late stage kidney cancer . . .
What has ensued since that awful day has been a mixture of sadness, elation and an improbable celebration of the true depth of the human spirit. I have witnessed first hand what it means to have a family, and what a family this is! They have supported and rallied around her in a way that I could never have imagined personally. Keryn’s beautiful blog will have given you an insight already to this, but to me it has been a revelation. There is always somebody at the hospital. There is always food, drinks, laughter and tears. There is always somebody to smile, hug and express amazement at our dear Nancy’s strength and will at fighting every new setback that seems to come daily. I’m truly humbled that events came about so that I could become part of this amazing family, and every day I thank the Guardian Angel whose guidance arranged that fateful meeting with Nancy all those wonderful years ago and resulted in our marriage two years ago. The time I’ve spent with Nancy has been the happiest of my life and with Nancy’s spirit and new medical advancements, I’m now certain that there will be many more.
Below is a photo of a small stand with a pair of Nancy’s shoes on top, to remind me of her every hour of the day.
They will stay there until she walks into the condo by herself, and walks out wearing them . . .
Loving husband and soulmate . . .